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The Misattuned Family: Techniques for Healing Attachment Trauma

Too many children feel hurt, angry, and disconnected from their parents; and too many parents feel discouraged that their child-rearing approaches aren’t working. Many parent-child therapies focus on improving behaviours without looking at the core issues underneath—attachment and trauma. This recording offers an approach that focuses on the physiologic, nonverbal connection between parent and child to improve the relationship. Using two attachment-based modalities—Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy and Theraplay—learn how to enhance regulation, connection, and joy between parents and children as well as guide parents to do reparative work around family trauma. Discover how to: 

  • Get to the heart of a child’s deeper thoughts, feelings, wishes, and beliefs without relying on the child’s ability to verbalize feelings 
  • Facilitate active dialogue between parents and children that’s both safe and gets to their core issues 
  • Practice scenarios for optimal arousal, affect regulation, and de-escalating child-parent dysregulation 
  • Learn gentle ways to intervene and redirect a misattuned or critical parent 


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Dafna Lender, LCSW
2 Hours 01 Minutes
Mar 20, 2021
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Continuing Professional Development Certificates - PESI Australia, in collaboration with PESI in the USA, offers quality online continuing professional development events from the leaders in the field at a standard recognized by professional associations including psychology, social work, occupational therapy, alcohol and drug professionals, counselling and psychotherapy. On completion of the training, a Professional Development Certificate is issued after the individual has answered and submitted a quiz and course evaluation. This online program is worth 2.25 hours CPD.



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Dafna Lender, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker who has worked in the field of child welfare and child mental health for 20+ years. Dafna serves as the program director at The Theraplay Institute in Evanston, IL and is certified as a practitioner, supervisor and trainer in both Theraplay and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP). Dafna trains psychotherapists internationally in these methods and trains in three languages.

Dafna’s focus is children’s development of a secure attachment with their caregivers while resolving issues in their traumatic history. Early in her career, Dafna worked in treatment foster care and witnessed child after child “fail” out of foster placements due to difficult behavior. Children were disruptive, unsettled and unhappy, and their caregivers felt defeated. Dafna’s sense of discouragement went way after taking the Theraplay training and learning direct, concrete ideas and interactions that she could apply in home with her treatment families to promote healthier, stable relationships. Dafna has successfully treated children with a variety of backgrounds, including children raised in orphanages, with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, exposed to domestic violence and community violence and children of parents with chronic mental illness.

Speaker Disclosures:

Financial: Dafna Lender is the founder of Dafna Lender Psychotherapy Training and Consulting. She is a published author and receives royalties. She receives a speaking honorarium and recording royalties from PESI, Inc. She has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.

Non-financial: Dafna Lender has no relevant non-financial relationships.

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  1. Practice activities that increase a sense of well-being and connection between family members.
  2. Facilitate active dialogue between parent and child using PACE to get at the dyad’s core issues.
  3. Practice recognizing escalation in child and parent and employing strategies for de-escalating the situation.
  4. Employ techniques to calm and refocus a parent’s energy and communicate messages in a constructive manner.


  • Implement face-to-face between parent and child to create a sense of well-being, connection and joy 
    • Watch and practice activities that increase warm facial expressions, synchronized movement and rhythm 
    • Learn activities that work to calm a dysregulated child and engage a withdrawn child 
  • Learn to facilitate active dialogue between parent and child that is both safe and gets at the dyad’s core issues.    
    • Practice using PACE-Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity and Empathy 
    • Learn techniques to discern underlying motives/feelings underneath a child’s behaviors 
  • Practice scenarios for de-escalating child and parent dysregulation optimal arousal and affect regulation,  
    • Detect and manage parent/child signs of escalation before they  sabotage the session 
    • Learn techniques for reducing intensity of content to allow child to stay with difficult content 
  • Learn gentle ways to intervene and redirect a misattuned or critical parent  
    • Observe techniques for calming and refocusing parent’s energy 
    • Observe techniques for helping parent convey messages in a constructive manner 

Target Audience

  • Counselors
  • Social Workers
  • Psychologists
  • Psychotherapists
  • Therapists
  • Marriage & Family Therapists
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Case Managers
  • Physicians
  • Nurses
  • Other Mental Health Professionals



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