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Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed

From Wendy Behary...

Twenty years ago, I, like you, was frustrated with the lack of treatment progress I was having with narcissistic clients and tired of feeling irritated, intimidated and defeated. I would check my schedule, and when his name was there in bold font at 4:00 PM, I would feel a dreadful pit in my stomach…but no more! The techniques I am going to give you solved this, turned my life as a practitioner around and effectively changed my client’s self-defeating patterns.

I’m talking about the challenges of dealing with an “involuntary” client. The one forced to come for therapy by a loved one fed up with his arrogant, self-righteous, and obnoxious behaviors. He had recently lost a relationship, had a disciplinary problem at work and was in legal trouble all because the “rules didn’t apply to him”. He would strut into my office - first trying to amuse me, then defiantly refuse to engage in my “touchy feely” strategies.

I found the key to effectively working with narcissistic clients.

Since then I have honed this innovative therapeutic approach to help move these clients beyond their self-destructive behavior, transforming the lives of numerous clients and their families. This approach will revolutionize your practice and drastically improve your outcomes with your most difficult clients (not just narcissistic ones, since it works well with any challenging or resistant client).

I have gone on to write a book “Disarming the Narcissist,” as well as teach this approach around the globe and now have, in conjunction with PESI, created a special workshop to help you learn and incorporate these methods into your work.

Sign up today, to get the secrets to my success and help you transform your approach. No boring talk and theory, rather we will walk through step by step, the key strategies in my approach. You will learn how to engage these clients effectively - and confidently address their most frustrating behaviors.


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Wendy T. Behary, MSW, LCSW
6 Hours 17 Minutes
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May 12, 2016
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The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey

Wendy T. Behary, MSW, LCSW, with over 25 years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating narcissist clients, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems; training professionals; and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. Wendy is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck’s Institute). She served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and is currently the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee for the ISST; and also served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010.

Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an international bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist...” (New Harbinger, 2nd edition) translated in 12 languages. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. She receives consistent high praise for her clear and articulate teaching style and her ability to bring the therapy to life through dramatic demonstrations of client interactions in the treatment room.

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Wendy Behary is the Co-Founder/Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She receives a speaking honorarium from PESI, Inc.
Nonfinancial: Wendy Behary has no relevant nonfinancial relationship to disclose.

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  1. Demonstrate specific clinical strategies to apply with narcissistic clients.
  2. Integrate concepts from interpersonal neurobiology as powerful tools for accelerating treatment effectiveness.
  3. Identify personal schemas and modes – a major obstacle to treatment.
  4. Utilize self-work: to bypass intense personal triggers, activated by the narcissist.
  5. Create and adapt custom-fitting scripts to fortify leverage, to utilize “empathic confrontation” and to set limits…under a variety of conditions relevant to narcissism.
  6. Utilize the “Therapy Relationship” as an effective strategy for changing maladaptive reactions; and as powerful agent for change – generalizing newly adapted behaviors from the treatment room to the narcissist’s world.


Origins of Narcissism and Treatment

  • Conceptualization of narcissism and early unmet needs
  • Assessment tools
  • Narcissism DSM® and Schema Theory

The Spectrum of Narcissism

  • Entitled types
  • Full-blown character pathology
  • Sociopathic profiles

The Narcissist in Treatment

  • Unmet needs
  • Coping styles
  • Imbedded states of mind
  • Using specific assessment tools to guide treatment
  • Modes and schema of the narcissistic client

Overcoming the Challenges in Treating the Narcissist

  • Traits, states, and coping styles
  • How the narcissist provokes the therapist
  • How the therapist’s schemas and modes can sabotages treatment
  • Gaining leverage
  • Meaningful consequences
  • Keeping the narcissist motivated
  • Working with the narcissist’s spouse or significant other

Interventions and Strategies for Change

  • Establish agreements regarding mutual respect
  • Imagery, for linking new thinking and behavior with early maladaptive experiences
  • Confront the detached modes in order to access the lonely child
  • The power of candid “realness” to build trust
  • Break through intellectual and approval-seeking barriers
  • Confront overcompensating grandiosity
  • Effectively tackle aggressiveness
  • How to remain the credible, compassionate expert that you are

How to Implement Interventions: Demonstrations and Role Plays

  • Video presentation/case discussion
  • Imagery
  • Cognitive and emotion-focused chair work
  • Mode work
  • Empathic confrontation
  • Therapy relationship
  • Limit setting

Target Audience

Counselors, Psychotherapists, Psychologists, Social Workers, Case Managers, Marriage & Family Therapists, Addiction Counselors, Nurses, Occupational Therapists/Occupational Therapy Assistants, Mental Health Professionals



Overall:      4.8

Total Reviews: 91


Julianna P - DREXEL HILL, Pennsylvania

"Interesting presentation of content and very helpful presentation on intervention to utilize with an otherwise difficult population."

Kathleen W - PEKIN, Illinois

"Really enjoyed her seminar!!!"

Kandi T

"great course, learned valuable information."

erika w - Polson, Montana

"Overall I felt she was a very good presenter. I enjoyed the subject and learned a lot."

Donna G - WOODLAND HILLS, California


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