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Digital Seminar

Couples on the Brink: When Is Enough Enough?



We’ve all encountered couples for whom therapy is a last-ditch attempt before calling it quits. But how do we, as therapists, decide whether to throw our weight behind the relationship or let it end? This session explores the impact our own values, childhood experiences, and old family roles have on how we help couples answer this momentous question. Through case histories and discussion, you’ll focus on:

  • How to quickly get to the heart of the matter and articulate the couple’s stuckness, then reawaken warmth and closeness, helping them remember love and back off the ledge if possible
  • What to do when one partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
  • What to do when your own deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history

How to proceed when addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future or when there’s been betrayal or infidelity

 


Details

Product Details
Average Rating:
   4.7
Faculty:
Terry Real
Duration:
3 Hours 36 Minutes
Format:
Audio and Video
Copyright:
25 Mar, 2017
Product Code:
NOS052870
Media Type:
Digital Seminar
Access:
Never expires.

CPD


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Faculty

Terry Real Related seminars and products: 6

LICSW, Consultation and Therapy

Private Practice


Terry Real, LICSW, is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher.  He is particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men and male psychology as well as his work on gender and couples; he has been in private practice for over twenty-five years. Terry has appeared often as the relationship expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. His work has been featured in numerous academic articles as well as media venues such as Oprah, 20/20, The Today Show, CNN, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today and many others.

In 1997 he published the national bestseller: I Don't Want To Talk About It, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression. That was followed by How Can I Get Through To You? an exploration of the role of patriarchy in relationships and most recently, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work, a practical guide for couples and couples therapists.

Terry founded The Relational Life Institute, in Arlington, Massachusetts, dedicated to working with the general population to help women reclaim their voices and men open their hearts. The Institute offers a training program which begins with an introductory level practicum as well as workshops and trainings throughout the US and Canada.


Additional Info

Program Information

Access for Self-Study (Non-Interactive) Access never expires for this product.

Outline

  1. Course of Treatment
    1. Step One
      1. Join with the Most Distant Partner
      2. Partners’ Positions Translate into Their Unique Dance
      3. Dance as the System Needing Treatment

 

  1. Join Through the Therapist’s “Truth”
    1. Confront the stable partner
    2. Preconditions for Intimacy
    3. Form alliances with each partner
    4. Step Two
      1. Negotiate a 3-4 Month Contract
      2. Base this on 180 degree Turnaround in Stable Partner
    5. Step Three
      1. Produce Palpable Change in the Stable Partner
  2. Three Phases of Treatment
    1. Waking Up
    2. Inner Child Work
    3. Learned Connection
  3. Using Therapeutic Intimacy
    1. Creating Alliance
    2. Appropriate Self Disclosure
    3. Working with Grandiosity
  4. Intimacy as a Spiritual Practice
    1. First and Second Consciousness
    2. Adaptive Child vs Functional Adult
    3. How Couples Mutually Trigger Their Positions
  5. Relational Recovery
    1. How to Bring the Functional Adult into Relationship
    2. Bottom Up and Top Down Healing
  6. Five Losing Strategies of The Adaptive Child
    1. Process of Harmony, Disharmony, and Repair
    2. Being Right, Controlling the Partner, Unbridled Self-Expression
    3. Retaliation, and Withdrawal
  7. The Relational Grid
    1. Self-esteem
    2. Grandiosity and Toxic Shame
    3. Full-Respect Living
    4. Boundaries
    5. Letter to the Adaptive Child
    6. How to Go After What You Want
    7. Improving Communication
  8. The Feedback Wheel
    1. Acknowledgement
    2. Experience
    3. Imaginings
    4. Feelings
    5. Desires
    6. Listening and Responding
    7. Teach the Couple to Hold Reality Lightly
    8. Develop Curiosity
    9. Respond with Generosity
    10. Cherish What You Have

Objectives

  • Focus on how to quickly get to the heart of the matter and articulate the couple’s stuckness, then reawaken warmth and closeness, helping them remember love and back off the ledge if possible
  • Focus on what to do when one partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
  • Focus on what to do when your own deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history
  • Focus on how to proceed when addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future or when there’s been betrayal or infidelity

Target Audience

Psychologists, Physicians, Addiction Counselors, Counselors, Social Workers, Marriage & Family Therapists, Nurses, and other Behavioral Health Professionals

Reviews

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Overall:      4.7

Total Reviews: 225

Comments

Catherine Q - Cincinnati, Ohio

"Excellent! Thank you"

Joyce B - ARLINGTON, Texas

"Excellent presentation"

Ursula S - BELLINGHAM, Massachusetts

"Absolutely amazing, life-changing (and practice-changing) training!!"

Peggy-Sue F - Milford, Connecticut

"Can't wait to include my new awareness of the importance of addressing both grandiosity and shame, not just shame. Terry did an amazing job modeling how one might do this!"

Mark S - SYRACUSE, New York

"Very Very worthwhile!!"

Linda A - Westmont, Illinois

"Loved it! "

Arlene N - ALBANY, California

"excellent seminar. Learned a lot"

David C - Seattle, Washington

"Exceptional presentation"

Deb H - Sun Prairie, Wisconsin

"Best therapeutic approach I have ever seen! Terry Real is amazing!! I'm so grateful he overcame his family's legacy of dysfunction to do this work. It has been life transforming already. God bless him!"

Laura K - BALTIMORE, Maryland

"Great lecture - very engaging and informative"

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