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ADHD, Relationships, and Sex: Strategies to Overcome the Over/Under-Functioner Dynamic

Couples show up in your office stuck in a tug of war -- neither partner is happy. 

Without specific strategies to shift this dynamic, you’ll get stuck in the same unwinnable battles – and if you’re not looking for ADHD in one of the partners, you could be missing the boat! 

Explicitly addressing ADHD (including the other partner’s response to it) is the change agent for successful therapy! 

ADHD exacerbates the universal struggles that every couple faces, so learning to work more effectively with these couples will make you more effective with all your couples.  

Join Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST, in this fresh look at how to move couples forward in therapy: 

  • Overcome ADHD’s mindset traps  
  • Escape the dynamics of the over- and under-functioner 
  • Create more sustainable agreements 
  • Negotiate each partner’s desires and needs  
  • Once again reap the many benefits of a satisfying sex life 

Don’t miss out on learning from one of the few experts in both ADHD and sex therapy! 


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Ari Tuckman, Psy.D, CST
2 Hours 06 Minutes
Aug 21, 2020
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Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST is a psychologist, certified sex therapist, and ADHD expert.

He is the author of four books on adult ADHD, including his most recent book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship, which is the first to explore how ADHD impacts a couple’s sex life ad relationship – and how to improve both. He has also written several book chapters and is a frequent author for ADHD-related publications, including ADDitude Magazine, and Attention Magazine. His Sex Matters blog on covers general sexuality topics, as well as how ADHD impacts sex and relationships.

He is a popular and dynamic presenter who routinely earns excellent reviews for his ability to make complex concepts understandable and useful. He has given more than 400 presentations to professionals and members of the public, across America and in Sweden, Turkey, Greece, Mexico, England, Spain, Denmark, Canada, and Iceland.

He has appeared on CNN, National Public Radio, and XM Radio and been quoted in The New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, The Boston Globe,, The Philadelphia Inquirer, Men’s Health, and many other media outlets. He is a former board member and current conference committee co-chair for CHADD, the national ADHD advocacy organization.

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Ari Tuckman maintains a private practice. He is an author and receives royalties. Dr. Tuckman receives a speaking honorarium from PESI, Inc.
Non-financial: Ari Tuckman is the conference committee co-chair for CHADD.

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  1. Demonstrate how ADHD neurology impacts an individual psychology. 
  2. Determine the many ways that ADHD can impact both partners in a couple and the common dynamics that ensue. 
  3. Clarify what the research tells us about the differences between the most and least happy couples with one ADHD partner and apply it to practice. 
  4. Integrate a deeper understanding of ADHD, relationship dynamics, and sexuality to work more effectively with these clients to improve both their relationship and sex life. 


Inside the Adult ADHD Mind   

  • Difficulty seeing time and feeling the future 
  • Avoidance of difficult or unpleasant tasks   
  • Common mindset traps and rationalizations   
  • Psychological defensiveness after a lifetime of being corrected 

ADHD’s Impact on Relationships and Sex 

  • The over-functioner meets the under-functioner 
  • Micromanagement versus independence 
  • Chronic polarizing pattern of push and pull 
  • Sexuality fades and the couple’s connection weakens 

What the Happiest Couples are Doing Right –  

  • Strategies to: 
    • Apply a deeper understanding of ADHD to manage life more resiliently (for both partners) 
    • Create more sustainable expectations to de-escalate the unwinnable tug of war between distraction and anxiety  
    • Explore priorities to decide what to change and what to accept in the relationship 
    • Negotiate differences respectfully and productively  
    • Identify and overcome barriers to a better sex life 

Target Audience

  • Counselors
  • Social Workers
  • Marriage and Family Therapists
  • Psychiatrists
  • Psychologists
  • Psychotherapists
  • Therapists
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Case Managers
  • Nurses
  • Other Mental Health Professionals


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